Monday, October 26, 2009

Time to Say Goodbye


No Cherokee, no longer.

Turned her in on Friday, under the allowed mileage on the lease and in almost as good of shape as when I picked her up. Someone will be getting a very nice SUV out of this....I just hope the trans problems are indeed electrical and not mechanical. Either way, not my problem anymore.

The turn-in process was pretty quick and painless, but since I didn't re-lease or buy a car from them before I turned it in, the reacquisition fee wasn't waived for me this time around....and they upped it to $425 from the $300 I was expecting. Should have read my contract a little closer. All is not lost though. I have 60 days to get a vehicle through Chrysler and still qualify for a lease loyalty rebate. Now if I could only find that Charger I thought I had tracked down on a nearby lot....

So technically I am carless at the moment. I have a car in my possession, well if you can really call a Kia a car, but I don't have one of my own right now. With my dad not able to drive for at least another 6 weeks, it just seemed to make more sense to take my time and find a deal that I like on a car that I really want. Not having a car payment for a month or two and doling out money at the gas station less frequently will be nice....but I'm surely not sold on this car thing yet.

It's been nearly a decade since I drove a car consistently. The last car I bought/leased was a 1998 Protege. Since then it's been nothing but trucks and SUVs as my primary mode of transportation. Driving a car the last couple days has already been quite the adjustment, but now I am looking to do it permanently, and I really have no idea which car that I'm considering would be best for me.

No matter what, a car is going to be better on gas mileage than my Cherokee was....but how high do I want to go with the MPG? I love getting 40-50 MPG on my motorcycles, and that has helped to offset my fuel consumption in the summer. Now I have a chance to really make an impact on my wallet and help out the environment by getting a small, cheaper, very efficient car. Being the neo-hippie that I am, this all sounds great.....but being a single guy, it's not like I can exactly go that route.

During dinner on Saturday, at Baskin Robbins no less, my mom tried to sell me on the benefits of owning a Kia. This is the same woman who has been bothering me for a grandchild for nearly a decade now, since I am her only child and, therefore, her only hope for a grand kid. "Mom, if you EVER want the chance at a grandchild, you DO NOT want me to buy a Kia. I will never reproduce if that happens....hell, I may never have sex again if I buy a Kia."

Yes, I can talk to my mom like that and be fine.

And yes, it's sad, but true, that I have to consider things like this when purchasing a new vehicle. So I have plenty to consider tonight as I search for a new vehicle while watching my Burgundy and Gold on Monday Night Football. I would appreciate any suggestions for a possible new car that wouldn't put a damper on my....social agenda.

Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Rusted From the Rain


While I don't feel tired, this lack of good sleep is beginning to get to me. Looks like today is gonna be one of those "just eff it" days. Only being able to sleep for an hour at a time is fine for afternoon naps, but when it carries over to my night that can get kind of annoying. Roll over; 12:30....roll over; 1:30....2:30....3:30....then when the alarm goes off at 4:30, I am actually sound asleep. Sigh.
I stumble through the wreckage, rusted from the rain
There's nothing left to salvage, no-one left to blame
If that wasn't enough to sour my mood on this wonderful morning, the rain took care of the rest. Sinus headache, achy joints (especially my injured shoulder which I must have slept on for one of my hour long naps), and freeway idiocy. Wow, I sound like a whiny little kid. Oh well....Eff it.
Among the broken mirrors, I don't look the same
I'm rusted from the rain, I'm rusted from the rain
Even before my trouble sleeping last night, something was sapping my motivation this week. I actually talked with more than one co-worker about it yesterday and found out I wasn't the only one. Maybe the change in the weather lately is getting to everybody....who knows?
Dissect me 'til my blood runs down into the drain
My bitter heart is pumping oil into my veins
Whatever the case may be, today marks two months since I laid my X down on the freeway and I still haven't completely healed. The shoulder, wrist, and hands are on the mend and coming along slowly but surely. Mentally, I was ready to get back on a bike as soon as I left the hospital, but said wrist injury makes squeezing the clutch lever painful on one bike, and nearly impossible on the other.
I'm nothing but a tin man, I don't feel any pain
I don't feel any pain, I'm rusted from the rain
My life looks a lot different today than it did the morning of Aug 21st. Plenty has changed with me and those close to me, and this may have something to do with my mood of late. After two of the people who know me best in this world expressed concern for the way I have been acting lately, I had a period of introspection last night and concluded that, even though I thought I was fine and dandy the last couple months, I really haven't been.
Go on...crush me like a flower, rusted from the rain
Go on...strip me of my powers, beat me with your chains
One thing after another has chopped away at my granite facade in that time and, even though I haven't noticed it, there has been a change. My mom pointed out to me yesterday that, despite all the stuff I/we have been dealing with, I would normally have bounced back by now and been back to my old self again....and she's right, like she so often is. She ended the text, which led to a lengthy phone conversation, by saying she "just wanted her son back" and that she loved me. With a support system like that, how can I ever feel down at all?
And if...I'm the King of cowards, you're the Queen of pain
I'm rusted from the rain, I'm rusted from the rain
But see, that's just it....I HAVE been down. Not constantly, but I have had my moments. And those moments have been more frequent and have lasted longer than they ever would have before. On the flip side, I have also had many moments of pure joy in this time. My mood has been full of peaks and valleys, but not everyone has gotten to see the peaks.
You hung me like a picture, now I'm just a frame
I used to be a lap dog, now I'm just a stray
Which is why it was a little alarming to have someone who has seen the peaks, as well as the valleys, be one of those who expressed concern with my state of mind yesterday. If my mood has seemed a little lower than normal to one of the very few people who gets to see the very best of my moods, how must everyone else be seeing me? And how in the world did this escape my attention? And why, after being able to pinpoint all this, am I so sour this morning? Usually when I notice something like that, I am able to pull myself out of it in no time.
Shackled in a graveyard, left here to decay
Left here to decay, I'm rusted from the rain
So this time is different. No better, no worse....just different. Overall I am still my shiny, happy self and an eternal optimist. Some of the things I've been dealing with will take some time to stop completely bothering me, but they will stop. If they haven't already. Some forces not under my control have conspired to add even more stress to my life at a time where it couldn't be more of a hindrance. It's the classic case of little things, that wouldn't have any affect on their own, adding up to create an issue greater than the sum of their parts. But that won't last long either.
Go on...crush me like a flower, rusted from the rain
Go on...strip me of my powers, beat me with your chains
So while I've had to fake a few smiles here and there, especially at work, the genuine smiles are still there too. Still plentiful as a matter of fact. It may take some time to completely digest some of the things I have on my plate, but I'm sure no one could argue that my appetite isn't strong enough to eat it all up rather quickly. See, I'm making food analogies....my mood must already be lifting.
And if...I'm the King of cowards, you're the Queen of pain
I'm rusted from the rain, I'm rusted from the rain
Long story short (too late), I realize I haven't been myself lately. What I didn't realize is how obvious that was to some people, and how that could cause some concern. No worries. I'm still that same goofy 12 year-old boy inside, and I don't see anything changing that any time soon.

Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Go On....You Know You Want to Touch It

So after more than a year of struggling to get my old Razr to do some of the most basic functions you can ask of a mobile phone, and waiting to see if Verizon would start offering iPhones, I finally found a phone I wanted to upgrade to and yesterday it finally made it's way to me so I am now the proud new owner of an EnV Touch....and there was much rejoicing.

So far so good. I like it, but then again I would like just about anything after the last couple months with my old phone. I shouldn't complain too much about it....I am surprised the thing worked at all. Last year I got caught in a complete downpour when I was out riding, and the phone was dripping wet when I got home, including a nice little reservoir of rain water that I found in the battery compartment when I opened it up to take the battery out. After that, the 8 button stuck a little, but the rest of the phone was just fine aside from a few service issues here and there which I guess is to be expected after something like that.

Then after more than a year of dealing with certain issues here and there everything got a LOT worse when I took a spill on 96 with my phone in my jeans pocket rather than inside my riding jacket like usual. While it had more of it's body covered in road rash than I did, the thing was still working and I was able to get a hold of my family before being carted off to the hospital, and the thing performed brilliantly that night and the next day as my only link to the outside world while I was being held in ICU for observation.

In the end, the service issues and difficulties charging the old phone finally did it in and I found the EnV Touch as soon as I could get my 'New Every Two' discount. In the end I only paid $50 for the phone, and the monthly bill will be more than $20 cheaper than with the old plan. Overall, I am really happy right now....but we'll see how long the lustre of this new phone lasts.

Monday, October 19, 2009

Morning Music 10-19-09


1. Savior- Rise Against. "There is no time like the present to drink these draining seconds"
IF YOU COULD ONLY SEE THE BEAST YOU'VE MADE OF ME
2. Tell Me Baby- Red Hot Chili Peppers. "Tell me baby what's your story Where you come from And where you wanna go this time Tell me lover are you lonely The thing we need is Never all that hard to find....You're so lovely are you lonely Giving up on the innocence you left behind"
I HELD IT IN BUT NOW IT SEEMS YOU'VE SET IT RUNNING FREE
3. My Own Worst Enemy- Lit. "It's no surprise to me I am my own worst enemy 'Cause every now and then I kick the living sh*t out of me....Please tell me why my car is in the front yard and I'm sleeping with my clothes on "
SCREAMING IN THE DARK, I HOWL WHEN WE'RE APART
4. Head Like a Hole- NIN. "I'd rather die than give you control"
DRAG MY TEETH ACROSS YOUR CHEST
5. Upside Down- Jack Johnson. "I wanna turn the whole thing upside down I'll find the things they say just can't be found I'll share this love I find with everyone....I don't want this feeling to go away...."
TO TASTE YOUR BEATING HEART
6. Wake Up, Open the Door, and Escape to the Sea- Blaqk Audio. "Please catch me now, I'm lying. You taught me how it can feel like love. Just catch your breath. We'll dive in and our dissent will somehow feel like life."
MY FINGERS CLAW YOUR SKIN TRY TO TEAR MY WAY IN
7. 1,000,000- NIN. "Got these lines On my face After all this time And I still haven’t found my place....I feel a million miles away I don’t feel any thing at all....Is this really all That there ever was? Put the gun In my mouth Close your eyes Blow my f*cking brains out Pretty patterns On the floor That’s enough for you But I still need more"
YOU ARE THE MOON THAT BREAKS THE NIGHT
8. Wake Me Up When September Ends- Green Day. "Summer has come and passed The innocent can never last....As my memory rests But never forgets what I lost"
FOR WHICH I HAVE TO
9. Stockholm Syndrome- Muse. "look to the stars let hope burn in your eyes and we'll love and we'll hope and we'll die all to no avail all to no avail"
HOWL
10. Every You Every Me- Placebo. "I know I'm selfish, I'm unkind. Sucker love I always find, Someone to bruise and leave behind. All alone in space and time. There's nothing here but what here's mine."

Wednesday, October 14, 2009

Brought to You by the Number 2


Somehow, a conversation from yesterday sparked my interest in the number 2. More specifically, how the number 2 has often applied to me throughout my life.

Looking back on my youth, I earned a lot of second place trophies for various things. This is back in the day when you actually earned trophies based on your skill and/or performance....not like today where EVERYONE gets the same trophy no matter what.

My chess team days in elementary school have produced some great memories, and a lot of that has to do with my deep finishes in tournaments. Whether the fields were large or small, I was always in the top three (other than the national championships, where I finished somewhere in the top 30 in 5th or 6th grade) but I don't think I have a single first place trophy from my time playing chess. I learned very quickly to accept my role as the second best player on our team after I taught my best friend Jeff how to play and he integrated everything I knew about chess along with anything else he could learn elsewhere. By the time he joined our team, I couldn't beat him no matter how well I played.

Around the same age I played baseball and football for youth leagues. As a pitcher in my youth league, I was very good....but always the second option on every team I played for. Overall, I was a much better football player than I was a baseball player. On my youth leagues I was always one of the best players on my teams, often finishing second in our MVP voting....but never first.

Moving on to more 'personal' issues, and the topic of conversation that made me think of all of this in the first place, I've never been someones first....but I have been second plenty of times. Like I said in the aforementioned discussion, this is something that bothered me when I was younger, but nowadays I could really care less and it's no more than a statement of fact. Truth be told, I stopped asking people's "number" a long time ago. It usually comes up in conversation sooner or later with someone I am dating, basically whenever they decide it's time they know mine, but it's nothing I would ever focus on.

I've been told countless times by several friends that I am always someone they can count on to be there, and will always be considered a great friend. But in my whole life, I can name one person (Mark) who would EVER had referred to me as their best friend if asked. Each of my best friends growing up had another friend they considered closer to them than me, even though they were definitely my best friend at that time. Hell after months of planning, my best friend in high school ditched me as my senior prom date to go with some guy she didn't really know, and had zero interest in.

The term "a day late and a dollar short" has always seemed rather appropriate to describe my luck with dating. I'll meet someone, hit it off well, see obvious interest on the part of the other person, then inevitably get the, "You're a great guy....I'd date you in a minute, if I wasn't already involved." Of course, as I get older....I don't see that one getting any better.

So I settle. I can't have what I want, and I don't want what I can have....but isn't having SOMETHING better than having nothing at all? Considering my advice to anyone else would be, and has been, a plain and simple "NO"....I don't see how I ever justify it myself, but it happens. Well, I guess I should say that it happened. Past tense. I know it will only end badly, and usually pretty quickly, so why bother wasting my precious time? Like I said before, I am only getting older here.

I've always had a pretty high standard for what I look for in a significant other, and I would happily commit to someone that had 95% of what I am looking for, yet of all the people I have dated, only ONE has had at least 80% of what I was looking for. That wasn't enough to keep me around in the end, no matter how much I really wanted to make it work despite the problems.

Knowing what I know, and feeling what I feel, I won't be settling again anytime soon. It's obvious I have some issues with being number 2....so why would I force anyone else into that position by settling for something I don't want above all else? This is a case where being selfish and holding out for what I want will also result in my being unselfish by not forcing someone into a number 2 spot. So basically, this is a win-win situation....and win-win situations make everyone happy.

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Sleepworking?

TWILIGHT
Ever have one of those mornings where you just aren't 100% sure that you woke up from the night before? It's definitely not one of my favorite feelings, but getting up when I do, I have gotten pretty used to it. I'll often drag myself to the shower more than half asleep. It's not a big deal at all, since the shower will wake me up. Just one problem though....that didn't happen today.
NEW MOON
Looking back at everything I have done this morning until about 20 minutes ago....I can't really remember any specifics. The big stuff (showering, driving to work, etc.) I remember, but I can't recall the little details that would normally be easy for me to think of. What radio station I listened to on the way in, what time I walked in the door for work, how much gas I have left and will I need to fill up on the way home. These are all things I know every day....until today.
ECLIPSE
Who knows? Maybe this is just dementia setting in early. I'm pretty sure the ironic twist of someone as confident in his cognitive ability as I am having memory/brain issues toward the end of life is already a foregone conclusion....maybe it's just hitting me earlier than expected.
BREAKING DAWN
Or maybe I just need to get more sleep.

Monday, October 12, 2009

Morning Music 10-12-09

I had hoped to get a post up last night about yesterday, but my internet problems persisted throughout the day and I finally got fed up trying to access blogger with my effed up connection. I'm sure I'll work on that for later, but for now I thought it a good idea to put up my morning playlist.

1. Slow Poison- The Bravery. "Sing me one more I have found my angel Ah-ah-oh She walks upon the ground....And all of my dreams are only dreams And all of my schemes are only schemes And if this is my punishment Then I want my card to fit"

2. To Be Loved- Papa Roach. "I want domination I want your submission I see you’re not resisting To this temptation I’ve got one confession I love deprivation I’ve got a jet black heart It’s all f***ed up and it’s falling apart....I’ve got another confession I fell to temptation And there is no question There was some connection I’ve got to follow my heart No matter how far I’ve gotta roll the dice Never look back and never think twice....Take your past and burn it up and let it go Carry on; I’m stronger than you’ll ever know"

3. Until the Day I Die- Story of the Year. "Until the day I die I'll spill my heart for you, for you Until the day I die I'll spill my heart for you As years go by I race the clock with you But if you died right now You know that I'd die too I'd die too You remind me of the times When I knew who I was (I was) But still the second hand will catch us Like it always does We'll make the same mistakes I'll take the fall for you I hope you need this now Cause I know I still do....Should I bite my tongue? Until blood soaks my shirt We'll never fall apart Tell me why this hurts so much"

4. Dead Leaves and the Dirty Ground- The White Stripes. "If you can hear a piano fall You can hear me coming down the hall If I could just hear your pretty voice I don't think I need to see at all Don't think I need to see at all....Soft hair and a velvet tongue I wanna give ya what you give to me And every breath that is in your lungs Is a tiny little gift to me It's a tiny little gift to me....I didn't feel so bad 'til the sun went down Then I come home No-one to wrap my arms around Wrap my arms around"

5. Unglued- STP. "This confusion is my illusion Nowhere to look, but know where to find ya"

6. Something in the Way- Nirvana. "It's okay to eat fish 'Cause they don't have any feelings "

7. Sink the Pink- AC/DC. "She says choice is yours, casually So why don't you do what comes naturally"

8. Another Bag of Bricks- Flogging Molly. "This cold dark tormented hell Is all I`ll ever know So when you get to heaven May the devil be your judge"

9. Echoplex- NIN. "You feel me breathe I am watching you I see it all The many ways you can't get to me I see it all I see the Hell you put yourself through Oh the things I could do (if I wanted to) My voice just echoes off these walls My voice just echoes off these walls I don't need anything at all My voice just echoes off these walls And I just slowly fade away You will never ever get to me in here"

10. Frozen- Madonna. "You only see what your eyes want to see How can life be what you want it to be You're frozen When your heart's not open Mmmmmm, if I could melt your heart Mmmmmm, we'd never be apart Mmmmmm, give yourself to me Mmmmmm, you hold the key"

Thursday, October 08, 2009

Another Survey

Again, I'd love to have you share your answers with me just as I am sharing them with you.

1. Would you make a fool out of yourself in public if it meant you were making your partner laugh? Yes. If we can't laugh at ourselves, what can we laugh at?

2. Would you prefer the lights on or off during sex? Usually on.

3. Do you judge people solely by their musical preferences? Not solely, but it helps a lot.

4. If you could 'take back' your virginity from your first partner, would you? Yes. Nothing against her, but I started earlier than I should have.

5. Would you ever start a relationship with someone who was still living with an ex for financial reasons? At this point in my life, I wouldn't rule anything out....especially if you meet the right person.

6. Do you need to know everything about someone's past? No. I am always curious, but it won't bother me if there are things that I don't know. My view of the past is very simple; Everything from your past, good or bad, has made you the person you are today. If I appreciate the person, I can accept the past, no matter how bad. If you like the person you are today, you have no need to regret anything in your past.

7. It is more worthwhile and satisfying to improve the world or appreciate the world? It's a lot easier to appreciate, since it seems like no one can really agree on the best ways to improve it.

8. Do you feel you have a purpose or calling in life? The more bullets I dodge, the harder it is NOT to believe I am here for a reason. Anyone care to help me figure out what that reason is?

9. Do you believe that dreams can be messages from a "higher level"? I have no idea where they come from, but I have had quite a few dreams come true.

10. Would you rather have a great friend you could share everything with or a great lover you can't really talk to? I'm gonna be greedy and say both. You only get one go round in life, why not go for it all?

11. Is the male or female body the closest to perfection? Female. Just look at how much art is inspired by the female form compared to the male form. The female body is itself a work of art, the male body is very utilitarian.

12. Should a child who's caught masturbating be punished? Not punished, but talked to....and the talk should be age specific.

13. Do you like kissing in public? Yes.

14. Do you have a fetish that you would like to employ in your next relationship? No.

15. Did America really put a man on the moon? Yes.

16. Would you date someone significantly (9 years or over) older than you? If you find the right person, why should age matter at all?

17. Generally, in life, what makes you happy? I've learned to appreciate every day....so I guess I can say that I make own happiness.

18. How well do you handle criticism? Pretty well. Either I totally dismiss it, or I take it to heart as an opportunity to change for the better....depends on the source.

19. Would you like to date someone a lot purer than you? Would it be possible to find someone LESS pure than me? ;-)

20. When fooling around with someone, do you sometimes have sexual fantasies about other people? I have done that, but I prefer to keep my mind on what is actually happening....seems to work out better for everyone involved.

21. Is it possible for full-figured women to be equally attractive as thinner women? Yes.

22. You've just met someone incredible while out with friends, and (s)he's been kind enough to cough up a phone number. How long would you wait to call? It all depends on the vibe you get that night. I have texted that same night, and I've waited nearly a week before.

23. Do you think the family of a murder victim should have any say in what punishment is given to the murderer? No.

24. Would you have a 'Happy Button' installed on your body, connected to your brain, which would instantly make you very happy whenever you pressed it? I already do. It's called a penis.

25. Would you rather know everything about your mate, or be regularly surprised? I like surprises....but the more I know, the better I can do.

26. We are all human, do you judge someone for a past indiscretion? I think I already answered this....

27. What is sexiest on a woman or a man? Eyes. They have the power to completely captivate me. The right look, and I am powerless.

28. Would you rather have your dream job or your soul mate for the rest of your life? I'd be happy with any job if I was with the person I want to be with most.

29. Do you consider yourself sexually open minded? Yes.

30. Should your mate also become your best friend? Yes.

31. Would you rather marry a virgin or someone experienced? It really doesn't matter. If you have chemistry, everything will work itself out no matter what.

32. Have you ever had a true one-night stand? Yes.

33. Have you ever posed as a nude model? I did some underwear modeling once....that was interesting.

34. Would you prefer if good things happened, or interesting things? Right about now, I have more than enough interesting things in my head....time for some good luck.

35. Is it better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all? I don't know....I truly hope I never have to worry about that again though.

Wednesday, October 07, 2009

Random Survey

Time to do another random survey. Some of the number may have disappeared by the time I post this because of duplicate questions, questions that don't apply, or just plain stupid ones.

I'm always interested in seeing how other people would answer these same questions, so if you get the chance I would appreciate you copying and pasting this and sending your own answers to me via e-mail. I won't share anyone's answers, I just like to know as much about my friends as possible.

~~Max

Getting out of work early yesterday and today.

Other than my own, Denise's.

I'd like to say tonight, but since I'm spending my night alone on the couch watching baseball and doing this survey, I'd say those odds are pretty slim. So not tonight, but the sooner the better.

Gold

About two weeks longer than it should be.

Is there any way to say yes without sounding like an ass? I like to think I am attractive. I clean up pretty nice if I try.

50 First Dates

Doughnuts

Cider

Sept 21st

Well, Mark is usually coming and going....other than that I can have visitors at any time.

As a matter of fact I am
Something to Mark about food which we never ended up getting.

My room, on silent....don't want to hear it right now.

Light brown

Not at all.

Mx

Guinness and Kira

Summer vacations up north were always the best.

The Sex Pistols

Clarification

Leather

Spending time with those closest to me.

I was naked....but I was also asleep.

November 5th

I'm sure a ton of people, but only one that I can think of.

Last year?

Not often

iTunes

It's pretty special

I bite my fingers more than I bite my nails

Yes

Facebook

About 130 or so

Yes

Anything related to Psychology

Sure do

Although they don't fit my normal "type", usually blondes.

If you are lucky, they won't stay hidden for long.

Johnny Cash's version of Hurt.

Yes, too bad I suck at it.

Skipping this....

MI

Only child

Spoiled, no....but I do lead a charmed life and need to keep that in mind.

Need 30 more minutes.

Rarely

Not fluently, but I can swear in a whole bunch of tongues.

LOL....if you know me, this is obvious.

Yes

No

Yes

Sam Rockwell

Several

No thanks

People who don't pay attention.
Not really

Not really

Eh, they all suck equally.

I did a pretty sweet half donut earlier today in an unpaved parking lot.

Yes

Garden City Hospital

Possibly, but I won't put that to the test

$82

Umm, am I thinking of someone? Hmmm, maybe I am....

Don't remember exactly when, but more than once the last couple days.

5 pair of shoes, 6 pair of boots.

ALWAYS? No....

That's up for debate....do ears count?

Finishing this and heading to bed

Once or twice....

Yesterday

LOVE them

Disney World a few times.

PePe le Pew

Eggs

Very Autumny

Every day

Punted it halfway across W. Addison into a large puddle while crossing the street in front of Wrigley during a pretty heavy rain.

That depends on your definition of sick....but I did use my first sick day EVER a couple weeks ago.

Just Michigan....unless you count that 90 day stint I did in Florida.

This is an interesting question at the moment....

1957 T-Bird

Definitely

Travelling the world....I've got the itinerary, now I just need to become independently wealthy.

Yes. And if that wasn't the case, I'd make sure to do something about it. Life is too short to live day to day without happiness.

Tuesday, October 06, 2009

Trust Me, I'm a Doctor


The last few days I have realized something strange about my relationship with Dr. Pepper. I have been drinking an awful lot of it lately and noticed that I drink a LOT of it when I am eating food. Like twice as much as I would drink with any other beverage. The thing is, I don't really drink it when I am not eating. It's not really thirst quenching to me, where almost anything else that is wet can be.

On top of that, I don't really like the taste all that much anymore when I am not eating something. It seems that I will actively search for something to eat when I have one....and I don't need any help finding more calories.

Thankfully I have only one more 17 oz bottle left in the fridge to finish and then I am done with the Doctor for a while. Gonna have to put that on the same list for me as Chex Mix....and McDonald's breakfast after this morning.

I made sure to leave myself some extra time to get to work this morning so I could get some gas on the way....but I left myself more than enough time to get some food on the way too. It seemed like a good idea at the time, but my body is not liking it at the moment.

About this time last year I took some unhealthy things out of my diet. So far, I am doing pretty much the same thing this year. I've made an effort already to eat less red meat. I just stopped eating Chex Mix. I am done with McDonalds for a while. Now I am sick of the Dr. Any suggestions on what I should give up next?

I have a couple random music lists that I could have posted today, but now that the Tigers/Twins play-in game is going into the top of the 11th (after the Tigers took the lead in the top of the 10th and squandered it) I am having a hard time keeping my attention on this post....so I will get on that sometime in the next couple days.

Monday, October 05, 2009

Babbling


I haven't had too much to say lately, so I have avoided posting. I have a couple of drafts I really want to finish, but just can't get the thoughts in my head to sound right in my posts and I don't really want to babble on my blog. I was inspired by something I heard recently though...."it's not babbling if someone wants to read it". Mind you, I am the one who said that, but it doesn't mean I can't apply it to myself.

So on to my babbling.

This morning started off much like any other Monday....with me cursing my alarm, and bargaining with myself to get another 20 min of sleep time. Even after the snoozing, I was crazy tired when I got out of bed and it showed in my prep for the day.

First thing that gave me away was getting almost completely dressed before I realized I needed to shave....taking off my work clothes is usually something I enjoy, but not like that.

Second thing; right before I actually shaved, I let the dogs out. They were scratching at the door before I was done drying my face. When I let them in, they both went to their respective food bowls like usual. As I walk from the back door through the kitchen, Kira's bowl is behind me and Guinness has his bowl in front of me. I grabbed the food always set aside to dump in their bowls while I was facing Guinness. There was enough food in there for his breakfast and I dumped it into his bowl. Put the bowl back, and walked back to the bathroom to finish getting ready. Just a couple minutes later, Kira came looking for me....with the absolute SADDEST look I have ever seen on her face. I think she actually pouted.

A few more little things here or there led me to post a "one of those days" status on Facebook before I even started working....and then at work it got a little more annoying when a co-worker showed up unannounced. This is one of those guys that complains about everything....which is where the convo went right away, and didn't stop until he started asking me questions about contacts in my personal e-mail account. This is where the conversation stopped. I don't think I said another word to him.

The day got progressively better from there, and ended up being all right when I finally woke up and got unannoyed. Although with my new hours, I never get a chance to really eat my lunch, and forgot about that when I left work....not eating until dinner. Although I didn't have a real lunch, I did get to snack on some Chex Mix. I finished off the last bag of Chex Mix that I will ever have, and even though I love that stuff....I am happy to say I won't be having all the associated sodium in my diet.

Now as I sit here watching the MNF game with Favre facing the Packers in Min, I have found a way to relax and put my "day" behind me. I might not get anymore sleep tonight than I did last night, but tomorrow won't be one of "those" days since I am sure I got it all out of my system today. The day can't get me down if I don't let it, and I know tomorrow will be much better than today. :-D

Friday, September 25, 2009

Rewind

One of my favorite things about this blog is the fact that I can look back at posts from years ago and read exactly what was going on in my mind, and my life, at that time. When major events happen, it's interesting to read what I had to say right before or right after the event. Sometimes, the post before will take on an entirely new meaning when life throws me a curveball. At a time like this, I don't have to look back too far to find a post like that.

This post was written the day before my crash. Reading it now takes me back to what was on my mind that day, and also makes me realize how differently I take those words now.

Friday, September 18, 2009

Moonless Night


Sometimes the smallest things can send me into my deepest thoughts, and often about something which would seem, at first, totally unrelated.
BEFORE YOU, MY LIFE WAS LIKE A MOONLESS NIGHT
The last two weeks, I have been greeted by Venus and the moon as I walked out the door every morning for work, and then had them guide me through my commute, both of them hanging in front of me for almost all of my drive.
VERY DARK, BUT THERE WERE STARS- POINTS OF LIGHT AND REASON
Each morning, less and less of the moon would wake with me, slowly waning into a sliver of a crescent, while Venus didn't even blink. This morning, not even the slightest bit of moonlight shone upon me as I dutifully walked to my truck. My path today, lit only by Venus.
AND THEN YOU SHOT ACROSS MY SKY LIKE A METEOR
I scanned the radio stations as I drove in, never hearing what was actually playing, while my mind did it's own version of scanning. Jumping from one loosely related subject to the next, my thoughts bounced throughout my brain, touching even the most remote of thoughts hidden in my dark corners.
SUDDENLY EVERYTHING WAS ON FIRE;
I thought about everything. I thought about nothing.
THERE WAS BRILLIANCY, THERE WAS BEAUTY
My mind settled into a topic to ponder, the cyclical nature of life, as I drew close to my destination, the unyielding light of Venus staring straight at me, and the moon most noticeably absent.
WHEN YOU WERE GONE
My thoughts bounded from my own life, to the lives of those close to me, to the lives of people in general and as a whole. Then a random thought from last night popped into my head, and my focus shifted from thoughts of life, to thoughts of death.
WHEN THE METEOR HAD FALLEN OVER THE HORIZON
As I laid me down to sleep last night, my mind began the unwinding process. One of the random thoughts, or more so a mental picture, was of myself dead and about to be buried. I didn't actually see myself dead, but I saw the grave I was about to be buried in and just knew it was mine. The only reason I found this strange was because I plan to be cremated, not buried. The fact that I was dead didn't bother me, but the fact that I was being buried kinda did.
EVERYTHING WENT BLACK
I don't know why this random thought jumped into my head as I was thinking about life, but I guess it's not a big stretch to go from one to the other.
NOTHING HAD CHANGED, BUT MY EYES WERE BLINDED BY THE LIGHT
With my thoughts now shifted to death, it didn't take me long to start questioning my own thoughts about something similar to death, but not death in and of itself. I found myself asking why we have a word dedicated to the period of time AFTER your existence is over, but not one for before your existence has even begun. We aren't, then we are, then we aren't again. Isn't that the cycle of life in a nutshell? Then why isn't there an accepted word, at least not known to me, for the period of time before we are born?
I COULDN'T SEE THE STARS ANYMORE
What a crazy question to come to, just because I couldn't see the moon this morning. I am often in awe at how my mind gets from point A to point B....and sometimes I just gotta say WTF?
AND THERE WAS NO MORE REASON FOR ANYTHING
I guess WTF could be described as a state of awe, but not the kind I'd generally strive for.

Tuesday, September 15, 2009


Wednesday, September 09, 2009

Afternoon Music 9-06-09

1. Jesus- Brand New.

"Do you believe you're missing out?
That everything good is happening somewhere else
But with nobody in your bed
The night is hard to get through"

2. Animal I Have Become- Three Days Grace.
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"I can't escape this hell
So many times I've tried
But I'm still caged inside
Somebody get me through this nightmare
I can't control myself

So what if you can see
The darkest side of me
No one will ever change this animal I have become
Help me believe it's not the real me
Somebody help me tame this animal"

3. She's Always a Woman- Billy Joel.

"She hides like a child,
But she's always a woman to me"

4. Come Alive- Foo Fighters.
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"Seems like only yesterday
Life belonged to runaways
Nothing here to see
No looking back
Every sound monotone
Every color monochrome
Light began to fade Into the black

Such a simple animal
Sterilized with alcohol
I could hardly
Feel me anymore

Desperate and meaningless
All filled up with emptiness
Felt like everything
Was said and done

I lay there in the dark
And I close my eyes
You saved me the day
You came alive"
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5. Given Up- Linkin Park.

"There's no escape
I'm my own worst enemy"

6. Glamour Boys- Living Colour.

"But just like things you can't afford on credit
Time catches up and you have to pay"

7. Doesn't Remind Me- Audioslave.

"Bend and shape me, I love the way you are
Slow and sweetly, like never before
Calm and sleeping, we won't stir up the past
So discreetly, we won't look back"

8. Addicted to Love- Robert Palmer.

"Your heart sweats, your body shakes
Another kiss is what it takes"

9. I'm Yours- The Script.

"I may not have the softest touch
I may not say the words as such
And though I may not look like much
I'm yours
And though my edges may be rough
And never feel I'm quite enough
It may not seem like very much
But I'm yours

You healed these scars over time
Embraced my soul
You loved my mind
You're the only angel in my life"
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10. When It's Over- Sugar Ray.
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"All the things that I used to say
All the words that got in the way
All the things that I used to know
Have gone out the window
All the things that she used to bring
All the songs she used to sing
All the favorite TV shows
Have gone out the window"

Saturday, September 05, 2009

My Weekend; So Far, So Good


It's been a couple weeks since I laid the X down, and I am happy to have come as far as I have with my recovery, but holy shit am I tired of this couch. I think I have spent more time on this couch in the last two weeks than I had all year before my crash. I'm going a little stir crazy here.

Last night, in an attempt to lift my couch-ridden spirits, I suggested Mark and I head to No. VI Chophouse to get some of the best steak around. I absolutely love the filet they have there, and I can find a way to justify the price every now and again because I like it so much. It's definitely my favorite place to eat steak around here, and one of my favorites I've ever eaten at. I was definitely a happy man when we got there.

The food was fantastic, but some of the conversations we overheard are what really made the dinner experience. The lack of common sense in an individual never ceases to amaze me, but it was definitely amplified because of the fine dining setting. From the LOUD girl behind me bragging about her vibrating licorice panties, to the HAMMERED lady that crashed another dinner parties' conversation on her way out to talk about martinis with a bunch of people that obviously didn't want her there, to the DUMB waiter telling the people behind us about his "chemistry experiment" with salt and ice, there was a lot for me to shake my head at.

After dinner we stopped at Gus O'Connor's to watch the end of the Tigers game, and I tried out my bar stamina for the first time in about a week. While I am definitely getting better every day, I still can't sit in one place for too long without pain, unless I have something to elevate and support my legs. I made it through to the end of the game, but pretty much darted out the door when the last pitch was thrown.

At home Mark and I watched some TV, had a couple interesting discussions, and then watched a few episodes of the third season of Dexter when Paul came over about 1:00.

I was happy to sleep in today, and actually slept longer than I had planned on because I decided not to take the X out for a diagnostic ride today to see how she is acting since the crash. I WANT to do it, but covering up my leg wounds to put on jeans is not gonna happen for a while if I can help it.

Instead I went out and did a couple things this afternoon, making my way to Rosenau Powersports at one point to look at new riding gear. I only saw a few things I like, but will definitely have to look up Olympia gloves here in a minute, and only tried on one jacket. I loved the look of the jacket, and it fit rather well....but it was just leather (not even that thick) and had no crash pads in it at all. After seeing how the pads in my kevlar jacket saved my joints, I'll never buy another riding jacket without them.

While I was putting on the jacket, this beautiful blonde girl there saw me struggling with it because of my shoulder injury, and tried to help me with it. Unfortunately, I was kind of a dick about not letting her help me....because I am independent normally as it is, but even more so now with my injuries. Hopefully she didn't take it too personally, since I didn't even say I was sorry. As a matter of fact, if I could apologize to her right now I would.

Rosenau was the last place I stopped today, and I made it home pretty early....but I still had a great afternoon. My improving health and an extra day off from work should make this a pretty good weekend, even though I had to cancel my Arts, Beats, and Eats plans for tonight. We'll see what I can get into tomorrow to keep my good weekend rolling. LOL. Get into. See what I did there?

Wednesday, September 02, 2009

Morning Music 9-02-09


1. Bad Medicine- Bon Jovi. "now this boy's addicted cause your kiss is the drug....I got a dirty down addiction, It doesn't leave a track I got a jounce for your affection, Like a monkey on my back There ain't no paramedic, Gonna save this heart attack....let's play doctor, baby, Cure my disease....You're an all night generator wrapped in stockings and a dress....You got the potion that can cure my disease"

2. Heat of the Moment- Asia. "It was the heat of the moment Telling me what my heart meant The heat of the moment showed in your eyes"

3. Collect Call- Metric. "I know its a lie, I want it to be true The rest of the ride is riding on you Over goodbyes we'll buy some place"

4. Pretty Girl (The Way)- Sugarcult. "And that's what you get for falling again You can never get him out of your head....It's the way That he makes you feel It's the way That he kisses you It's the way That he makes you fall in love....She's beautiful as usual with bruises on her ego"

5. Thanks for the Memories- Fall Out Boy. "I want these words to make things right But it's the wrongs that makes the words come to life....Been looking forward to the future But my eyesight is going bad And this crystal ball It's always cloudy except for When you look into the past"

6. Thoughts of a Dying Atheist- Muse. "Eerie whispers trapped beneath my pillow won't let me sleep your memories....I know you're in this room I'm sure I heard you sigh floating in-between where our worlds collide....I know the moment's near and there's nothing we can do....It scares the hell out of me and the end is all I can see"

7. Once & for All- Foo Fighters. "Oh bring to me your broken and blue, No matter if it matters to you. A longing like never before, Ive had enough now I need more."

8. Every Rose Has It's Thorn- Poison. "Every rose has its thorn Just like every night has its dawn Just like every cowboy sings his sad, sad song Every rose has its thorn"

9. In Between- Linkin Park. "trying to be genuine was harder than it seemed And somehow I got caught up in between....trying to be someone else was harder than it seemed And somehow I got caught up in between....Between my pride and my promise Between my lies and how the truth gets in the way And things I want to say to you get lost before they come The only thing that's worse than one is none"

10. Seven Nation Army- The White Stripes. "the message coming from my eyes Says leave it alone....All the words are gonna bleed from me And I will think no more"

Bonus Song:

I'm usually very strict with my ten song rule....but I seem to love breaking rules, so I am fine adding another song today. It just seems very fitting considering today's date and the fact that I saw this video for the very first time last night....and this song is at least 4 years old.

11. Wake Me Up When September Ends- Green Day. "Summer has come and passed The innocent can never last....Here comes the rain again Falling from the stars Drenched in my pain again Becoming who we are....As my memory rests But never forgets what I lost Wake me up when September ends"

Tuesday, August 25, 2009

23 Hours

Early Friday afternoon was absolutely beautiful out, perfect riding weather. After work I quickly changed into some jeans and a t-shirt so I could take the X out for a nice ride up and down Hines. I've been on that road so much this season that I have pretty much every turn memorized. The 40 mph speed limit doesn't do much for me, but that along with the knowledge of the road makes it a very safe trip for me....and I am all about safety when on a bike, ask anyone I have ever cornered and lectured.

After I changed clothes, I threw on my steel toe riding boots and headed outside to warm up the X. Rode her down to the front of the driveway, just before crossing the sidewalk, and ran back in to get my full face modular helmet and my heavily padded kevlar coat with reinforced stitching. Both of which are silver and black, match my bike, and are highly visible to other drivers. Safe AND stylish.

As always, getting out of my neighborhood is the most nerve racking thing for me because of how my neighbors drive. In my hood it is very acceptable to stop where there isn't a stop sign, and to blow though intersections when you do have a stop sign. Once I get through the 6 intersections of my hood, I am home free and can start to enjoy my ride. Which I did.

The ride down Hines was so nice. The temperature was perfect for me, there were very few cars on the road, and the sun wasn't crazy bright or hidden the whole time. I had a great time taking in all the lush green scenery, seeing the few people running or riding bicycles, and catching the glimpse of a groundhog on the side of the road. I don't think I stopped smiling the whole time.

I took Hines into Northville and got off at Seven Mile when I was faced with some pretty dense rain clouds just north of me. I made my way back into Livonia, crossing 275 still on 7 Mile because I didn't want to deal with THAT headache on a Friday afternoon. I decide to take Newburgh back to Hines and head home before the rain catches me, but I had plenty of time since the rain was all north of me. On Newburgh I see a CVS at 5 mile where a construction zone begins. I pull in to the lot, run in to CVS to get a mega millions ticket, and then I can turn left on 5 mile and take that to Levan to avoid the construction. I'd also be riding past St. Mary Mercy Hospital, a former employer, and I like to check out their new additions when I go by, since it's pretty rare for me to be right there anymore.

My plans changed when I came out of CVS though. I was still gonna take Levan, but now some rain had moved in south of me, and it didn't seem like I could make to Hines before it started to rain. Now getting a little wet on the bike doesn't bother me at all, but being on Hines when it's raining does. The slightest amount of rain can cause Hines to flood in many parts, and it happens rather quickly. Not an ideal situation for someone on a low-riding motorcycle.

Reluctantly, I decide to take 96 home. It's just before 4pm, so the eastbound traffic won't be too crazy, and I can get home fast enough to avoid the rain. That way I'll be dry when I eat and head to the gym. It'll work out perfectly. Well, even the best laid plans don't always work out the way you'd hope.


Just past Telegraph I was travelling in the left lane with the flow of traffic, somewhere between 70-75 mph. The vehicle in front of me slowed down rather abruptly, and without brakelights, so I checked my blindspot and made a quick lane change as I came off the throttle. When I swung my head forward as I was pulling into the next lane, I saw why he was slowing down. There was a tire in the lane. Not HIS lane, but the lane I was now in. I know my bike very well, and knew she was up for the maneuvering I'd have to do to avoid this tire.

There was no way I was getting back into the left lane, and riding over the tire was out of the question, so I leaned even harder to the right to avoid the tire. I almost smacked into the side of a box truck in the next lane, and leaned back to the left just before that impact. I saw the tire go by my front wheel as I was coming back into the lane, and was beginning to think how lucky I was as I leaned back to the right to stead the bike in the middle of the lane. Unfortunately, my rear wheel either hit the tire or a piece of debris from is and had zero traction when I leaned back to the right. The front end was stable in the middle of the lane, I was stable in the middle of the lane, but the rear wheel just kept going.

I couldn't hold her up, and she started to low-side. Once I felt that, I jumped off to get clear of the bike. Low-siding can pin your leg under the bike, and at freeway speeds it's not unlikely to lose that leg if a heavy bike drags you a long way. Also, a low side can easily turn into a high side if the tires catch on the pavement. Considering I have a brand new tire on the back, and one with great tread on the front, that was a distinct possibility.

Well, jumping off seemed like a good idea at the time....but I guess I didn't consider that I might land in front of that moving box truck. Which I did. Never in my life have I been so happy to hear someone lock up their brakes as I was when I bounced off the pavement (which I went face first into) and saw the truck bearing down on me. It's funny how the mind works in times like these....instead of panicking and losing my shit, I did a quick calculation in my head to try and predict how bad the impact would be if the truck didn't stop in time and hit me. My answer is the same now as then, I would have survived that impact but if I ended up UNDER the truck....

Luckily the truck didn't hit me, and I tumbled across three lanes of rush hour traffic without being impacted by any other vehicles, as far as I can tell at least. My focus was on forcing my momentum toward the shoulder of the freeway so I could get clear as soon as possible.

Once I rolled sideways, diagonally, and end over end somewhere between 10-15 times, I jumped up, dusted myself off and ran to the crash wall to get as far from the traffic as possible. While doing so, I got my helmet off as quickly as I could (not even thinking about possible neck/back injuries I may have sustained and could have made worse) because my face shield was toasted after slamming into the concrete at about 70 mph, and I couldn't see anything through it.

Next came the jacket. I knew I had injuries and would need to get it off sooner or later, so that came off right away. Then I collected myself and talked to some of the witnesses who stopped to observe the carnage, then got one of them to help me pick up the bike from the middle of traffic and move it to the shoulder. Would hate to keep these nice people waiting on a Friday afternoon ya know. Moving the bike is when I realized how hurt I was. I had no leg strength and no use of my right shoulder without severe pain. All I was able to do really was steer the bike and make sure it was in gear when I left it on the side of the road. I also grabbed the key from the ignition so the bike wouldn't disappear on me....that would be just the cherry on top wouldn't it?

Once the bike was out of traffic, I called my mother to let her know I was ok, but that I had crashed and would be going to a hospital for treatment. The guy who helped me move the bike volunteered to call the cops at the same time. I let my mom go somewhat prematurely because I heard the guy talking to the cops say "driving recklessly and crashed". Needless to say, this did not go over well with me, nor any of the other witnesses.

Shock was beginning to set in when I dialed my mother, and it hit me with it's full force in the middle of arguing with the guy who called the cops. I barely stayed conscious, but knew I needed to so I could explain things to the paramedics and in the ER. When I finally got into the rig and undressed, my blood pressure was something like 67/44. I was surprised to hear that....because I just assumed I'd be out with numbers like that. Things became a little bit of a blur at that time. They got me on 12 liters of oxygen and started an IV as they called in to Sinai Grace that we'd be coming in. I also got a phone call to my mom somewhere in there, but my dad answered and could hear in my voice that I was concerned....which he probably hasn't heard since I was nine and sliced open my foot. I can only imagine what my parents must have been going through at that moment.

When we got into the hospital, my blood pressure was still crazy low, but I was able to communicate with everyone there....which is good because I had four people asking me questions at the same time. I believe I answered them all, but I do know that I stressed to them that I had to be able to fly by Tuesday. Looking back at what could have happened, that's kind of funny now....but I was really concerned that I was going to have to drive out to the east coast a night earlier than I was scheduled to fly.

Sometime in this flurry of approximately 15 people caring for me, I overheard one of the doctors getting the story from the paramedic who took care of me in the rig. After hearing that I walking around when they arrived on scene, had moved my own bike out of traffic, then completely undressed myself in the rig, the doc chuckled and said I was a "tough SOB"....to which the paramedic responded, "well, according to his wallet he's a bad MF" and showed him my wallet in my ziploc bag of personal possessions. I started to laugh, but I was interrupted by a surprise check for rectal bleeding. Why does the guy with the biggest fingers have to do that???

Things slowly began to calm down and I kept the trauma team on their toes with jokes here and there, including the one where I took off my O2 mask to offer my assistance to the guy who couldn't get the vain in my right arm for an IV. I felt bad for making fun of him, although I wasn't the only one, but that seemed to give everyone in the room a nice laugh.

When I was completely stabilized and sent off for an abdominal CT and X-rays to my neck and hands, the guy I made fun of was the one assigned to get me through all the tests. Thankfully he was a good sport, and we had some decent conversation throughout.

After the tests were done, I had nothing to do but wait. And wait I did. I was thrown into a corner in the ER between two guys who did nothing but ask for Morphine every 5 minutes. My family was finally allowed in to see me, but with the limited room in the ER, it's only one visitor at a time. My uncle was the first to come back and see me. He's been riding on and off for at least 45 years, and has been flat on his back a few times himself. I know he had to see how I was for himself, but I really think he wanted to prepare my mom for what was to come if it was worse than they had thought. Luckily it wasn't. My uncle quickly went through my belongings to make sure I had everything, and gave me my phone in the process.

My dad came in next and we had a short, but good, visit because he wanted to make sure my mom got back to see me before they started kicking out visitors at shift change.

Answering texts and setting up later texts and phone calls to inform people of my crash and how I was doing helped kill the time until my mom arrived at my bed. Unfortunately for her, since I had to lay flat on my back I was holding the phone up in the air with my arms straight out. When the nurse pointed her to where I was imprisoned, my mother gasped and asked what was wrong with my arms. She couldn't see my phone from that far away, but the nurse knew I was sending texts like a fiend and relayed that info to my mom.

My mother was the only one brave enough to lift the sheet covering my legs to see how they looked. I didn't think it was bad, but I hadn't seen my legs since I was in the ambulance, and that was almost four hours earlier. She had seen much worse on my uncle's legs when they were younger, but I guess as a parent it's still no picnic when you see your child injured like that. Since I couldn't look, she took a picture with my phone to show me. Even with the terrible lighting, I could see that it was just a flesh wound.

Soon after they kicked my mom out for shift change....then they came back to kick her out again when she didn't leave....and finally the third time they came and asked her, she left. My family knew well before I did that I'd be staying the night for observation, so they got out of there since visiting hours for admitted patients was already over. Between them leaving and being moved up to my room, I got a few calls and a lot of texts in. I called the people close to me who I knew needed to hear about the crash from me instead of someone else, and called my cousin Denise who had been COMPLETELY misinformed of my condition and was having a panic attack. Once I assured her I was ok, she calmed down....well, she got as calm as SHE can be anyway.

My last call was to Mark and, of course, was a request for him to do my bidding. My phone was dying so I needed the charger, and I was gonna be there a while so how about a book? And FOOD. It's been more than 12 hours since I've eaten anything. He also offered to bring my laptop for me, but I declined and was really looking forward to the book to tell you the truth even though I had already read it once. I wanted to get to the motorcycle crash in the book, but never did.

Not too long after he arrived my room was ready and I was moved, Mark followed but couldn't keep up with the little dude pushing my bed and slowed us down a bit. After I get settled in I asked for some water and heard the three letters I was dreading come out of the nurses mouth. NPO. Nil per os. Nothing by mouth. Nothing to eat, nothing to drink. The cupcakes and Slim Jim Mark brought me would have to wait.

Things were pretty uneventful from there on out. Mark took off a little while after I got settled in. The nurse came and gave my my first pain pill of the day, only nine hours after my crash, and I went to sleep.

Routine stuff the next day. Checking vitals every couple hours, another x-ray for my shoulder, NO BREAKFAST, no water, reading my book. Boring hospital stuff til about noon when I finally got some food, and a bunch of water. Then a few visitors, and then my discharge. 23 hours after my crash.

Looking back on it all, I know just how lucky I am that this wasn't worse. Walking away from a highway crash after skipping across three lanes of traffic during rush hour is amazing. My kevlar jacket, full face helmet, and riding boots definitely let me get up off the pavement right away....well, that and not being hit by another vehicle after I came off mine. Had I been wearing appropriate gloves and pants for the highway, I'd have lost about 90% less skin while bouncing down the highway, and would only be sore at this point. While I was wearing more, better protective gear than just about anyone else I have ever ridden with, I could have saved myself a lot of agony with just a couple other items.

I've always pressured friends and family to wear more gear, and spend the money to get quality gear. I have even gone so far as to buy a coat similar to my kevlar jacket for a riding buddy as a gift, because I knew he wouldn't do it on his own. This crash, and the extreme contrast between what was covered with top notch gear and what wasn't, will only make me more vocal. If just one person who hears me upgrades just one piece of gear, or covers up something they never covered before, my story has made a difference.

When it comes to crashes, there is a mentality with many bikers that is very egotistical, and borders on stupidity. The more miles and the more years experience you have on two wheels, the more you tend to believe you can avoid the crashes. Now that is true to a point, but it can become a "that wouldn't happen to me" mentality. I have the experience. I ride with safety in mind first and foremost. To be quite honest, I can maneuver both of my bikes better than most anyone who rides....and this happened to me. Had I not been as protected as I was, had I not been able to maneuver my bike almost completely around that tire, had I not been as lucky with traffic stopping, this very easily could have been fatal for me. Even though it wasn't, I still have to worry about this possibly affecting a lifelong dream I am so close to realizing. All because I didn't have the proper pants or gloves for the speeds I'd be travelling.

It won't be too long at all before I am back on a bike, I am already tuning up my other bike so I can ride it while I repair the X, but it won't be til I replace the gear that saved my life. If this crash has shown me anything, it's shown me that I am on the right track. I may not have been perfect in my riding that day, or my decision to get on the highway without the heavy gear, but I was on the right track at least with the gear I did have. There is always room for improvement, and I am thankful to have a chance to do just that.

Thursday, August 20, 2009

The Waiting Game


I've always been a patient man.....thankfully. For most of this year I have been playing one waiting game or another. And here I sit, still waiting.

As the year has progressed, I've taken steps toward certain goals. Each step fills me with a sense of completion, but it's hollow. Nothing is ever making itself known for sure, and while things are going great....here I sit, still waiting.

Knowing what you want, and having it so close within your reach is a very strange feeling. Once you finally get it, you can be overjoyed. Realizing it was just a step, and/or you have to wait to do anything like it again can be very humbling. Sometimes even daunting if the wait seems too long.

And here I sit, still waiting.

For much of my life, I have been very cynical. In the past few years though I have turned into a cynical optimist, instead of the pessimistic cynic I was before that. I can't see living my life any other way now. Instead of always waiting for the other shoe to drop, I always look for that shoe, find ways that it can drop, and figure out positive ways around it IF it does drop. I no longer dread the difficulties in life, I plan for them and know that I will be fine no matter what. But that doesn't mean my life is completely without worry.

The things that worry me are usually the unknown variables....a few of which I am dealing with at this point in time. Some things which are very important to me are up in the air right now. Nothing is promised. This I can handle, but wondering sometimes turns to worry as I sit here and wait.

I have very little control over where certain aspects of my life may lead me in the near future. As a recovering control addict, I am actually fine with this. There are pros and cons to everything, and I am sure I've made exhaustive mental notes on everything. No matter where the road turns, I will be happy in some ways and sad in others. I'll be able to come to terms easier though, once I find out what will happen.

And here I sit, still waiting.

Next week I have yet another step to take. It's a very important step, yet I really can't wait for it to be over. I'll be a much happier man once I get home and have a chance to relax for a couple days. Normally I look forward to flights OUT of Detroit....I am already looking forward to flying back home next Friday. As a matter of fact, I think I may just disappear all next weekend so I can chill out and get my head straight. Tomorrow may be Friday, but I am already looking ahead to NEXT weekend.

Another thing it looks like I will have to wait for are my Dexter DVDs. I keep checking Amazon to see if they have shipped yet, but no. It could take two weeks for them to get here because they won't be shipped until early next week. And here I thought pre-ordering was a good idea. The free shipping doesn't seem to be worth it now. At least I have the books to read in the mean time. Almost done with the first one.

Looking ahead, after all is said and done next week, I'll be right back in the waiting game. So much in my life will be decided in the next few months. There are some possibilities that I never imagined possible. Some still seem far fetched to me, and others just seem....well, they just seem right. Unfortunately, those things also seem diametrically opposed in terms of my future. I can't have my cake and eat it too....although I desperately want to. But again, I just need to wait and see what happens. Not much is in my control at the moment, but I am getting close. Close to something better left unknown if it never happens. Yet for this, I have faith. I can't explain it, it's just there. I've begun to realize a dream I've had for so many years. How can it not happen now? To be this close, to be this sure....I can't believe it will be taken away.

And here I sit, still waiting.

And wait I will.

As long as I need to.

Wednesday, August 12, 2009

My Dark Passenger



"I just know there's something dark in me and I hide it. I certainly don't talk about it, but it's there always, this Dark Passenger. And when he's driving, I feel alive, half sick with the thrill of complete wrongness. I don't fight him, I don't want to. He's all I've got. Nothing else could love me, not even... especially not me. Or is that just a lie the Dark Passenger tells me? Because lately there are these moments when I feel connected to something else... someone. It's like the mask is slipping and things... people... who never mattered before are suddenly starting to matter. It scares the hell out of me."
~Dexter Morgan, Season 2 of Dexter.

No TV show has ever made an impact on me the way this show has. As someone who likes to fancy himself a writer, the writing for this show has me completely entranced. Add to that certain topics on the show that have paralleled my life, and you have a "must see" as far as I am concerned. I didn't think anything would replace Mad Men as my favorite TV show for a while, but even as the third season of Mad Men is approaching this Sunday, I find myself anticipating even more the release of the third season of Dexter on DVD a couple days later. There are few TV shows I would ever watch more than once, so I never had a need to buy a full season on DVD when I can just rent them, but I'm definitely considering this as a purchase. Although with my Borders gift card which I received for my birthday last year now spent, on Dexter books no less, I'll have to check the price on the DVD set and add that into my calculation along with the cost of subscribing to showtime....where I might just be able to watch them 'On Demand' anyway.

When I heard the quote above while watching the show, I kinda held my breath listening to it. I've never been addicted to anything in my life, like the group at NA he was speaking to at that point in the episode, but I know this feeling. Some people refer to it more often as the devil on their shoulder, but that implies a conscious decision being made after being persuaded by the words of that devil residing on your shoulder. I've definitely been there too, my devil isn't so small to tell you the truth, but the "dark passenger" analogy really explained certain things I do a lot better than the devil analogy ever could.

This morning was a perfect example of it. I never did any dishes before going to sleep last night, so I wouldn't have time to do the dishes AND make breakfast for myself this morning. No big deal really, I get to sleep in a few minutes more, and I can have a small, healthy breakfast at work. It helped that I wasn't very hungry at all this morning too, so my 70 cal breakfast would have been ample for me until my morning snack. Then when I leave for work, I end up in the drive thru lane at McDonalds ordering a couple bacon, egg, and cheese biscuits even though I don't have the time, nor the desire, to eat them. I honestly didn't want them....but I got them.

I clearly exhibited a few addict traits this morning when I ate breakfast. I've already said I didn't consciously want the food I got....I regretted it at the time, and regret it now. I didn't really enjoy my meal....I just ate it. And when I ate it, I consciously chose a parking spot facing a wall so no one would see me eating them in my car on my way into work. The one good thing about my breakfast, calorie wise at least, was that I had a diet Dr. Pepper with it instead of regular Dr. Pepper....and that was by mistake. And by the way, Diet Dr. Pepper does NOT taste "more like Dr. Pepper" as their slogan says....it's pretty god-awful if you ask me.

A lot of my gym progress has been offset by the devil and the dark passenger over the last couple of weeks. While I rarely go over my 1250 calorie a day limit, I will sacrifice healthy snacks and meals in the wake of eating a less than healthy meal somewhere in the day. For instance, I have already skipped my morning snack for today, will have a limited lunch and dinner later as well to make sure I stay under my calorie cap for the day. Loading all your calories into one meal is not a recipe for losing weight, yet I have done it plenty of times in the last week or so.

I know with the right mindset I can fight off the devil, and even the dark passenger to some extent. I just need to get into the right frame of mind. Realize what I am doing at all times, take my bike more places than my car so I can't do the drive thru thing, take different routes so I don't drive past a BK or McDonalds when I have a craving. I know what I need to do. I just need to do it, and continue doing it. I need to exhibit one more trait of an addict, and take this all one meal at a time.

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

Simple Kind of Life


I don't have, by any stretch of the imagination, a very complicated or stressful life. My duties at work rarely follow me home, my home life is easy because my roommate and I are a perfect match in terms of living together, I don't have financial problems, relationship problems, or children to take care of. By normal definitions, my life is very simple.

Why is it then that I have this desire to simplify my life even more? I'm really not a nostalgic person, but why do I find myself reminiscing about days gone by and how much easier it all seemed then? Why do random memories, ranging from early childhood to just a couple of years ago, pop into my head here and there? Why do I have the need to reach out to those who used to be close to me, but have gone from my day-to-day life?

I know there are a lot of possible changes coming for me very soon, and I am very excited at what the future may hold in many different facets of my life....but these feelings of late have me perplexed.

Am I looking to have things simpler now because I know in a few months that things may be very hectic for quite a while? Am I just becoming more fond of my past than my present? Why do all of my questions lead to more questions instead of answers?

On one hand, I really wish I knew these answers....on the other hand, I think maybe I should just ignore this and be happy with how simple things really are.